Sometimes we look at the big picture and focus on all the bad things in our life. But if you step back and think, you can find some really good things still in your life :)
your parents unfortunately clearly aren’t being supportive or understanding. parents just don’t realize how much stress they cause in our lives sometimes. you may just have to do what I do, find ways to relieve your stress on your own. it could be anything, you just need to find something that works for you. it could be exercise, writing, music, sports, anything really just find something that takes your mind off of all the stress in your life for a little while. it will start to help slowly but surely.
I personally don’t believe you can. no offense, but you’re the one that developed the eating disorder, and an eating disorder is a serious illness. if you were able to handle it on your own, then it wouldn’t have developed into an eating disorder in the first place. you really need to find at least one person you can talk to about it. you need to get help, it’s not just going to go away. you aren’t going to wake up one day and say hey I don’t feel like having this disorder anymore! it doesn’t work like that, you need to get help before you do serious damage to yourself.
you should not feel stupid at all. you just have to look at the attention as a positive thing, as people caring. if people know, there isn’t much you can do to keep the attention from coming, but you have to go into it with a positive attitude. the way other people think is that you actually do want the attention and that it will make you feel better if they give you attention. none of them can really understand your situation because they have never experienced it. just try and keep your head up and stay strong :)
thinking negatively like that isn’t going to help things get better. you just need to start looking on the brighter side of things! everyone goes through stages where they feel like they screw everything up and that they just can’t be happy, but you can get past it, but it’s not just going to magically happen. you have to step up and make yourself happy.
everyone has to find their own personal way to deal with depression. you just need to find something that works for you. it could be a variety of things, you can try exercise, that’s a really big one. some people read, or write, learn to play an instrument, stuff like that. the most important thing is to find something that you really enjoy because that will be the key to keeping your mind off of bad thoughts.
No, I will not. I don’t say that to be rude, I say that because whether it’s cutting, abusive, anything, you can’t just hide it, you need to get help
you really just need to think positive. it’s normal to be scared, but thinking negatively is not going to help. think about this: will telling yourself you’re not going to get better make you any better? sickness is partially psychological, sometimes just telling yourself you know you’re going to get better can seriously help you get better. try to get out and do things to keep your mind off of it, I hope you get better :)
one thing I will tell you is making sure you are 100% ready and know you actually WANT to have sex, not because you’re afraid it will hurt but because you know you’re emotionally ready. as far as the physical aspect of it hurting, it’s honestly completely different for every person. I’m not gonna lie I have had friends tell me it was painful for them, personally I didn’t think it was anything bad. the problem is you won’t know how your own body will react until you’ve experienced it. you can use lube if you’re really afraid because it will help it go smoother, but most importantly just tell him to take it really slow and you really should be fine!
if they are really your friend, it wouldn’t be dumping it on them, I know if one of my friend’s came and asked for my help I would be more than willing to help. you can talk to a counselor also, it’s not like you can talk to someone and the problem will magically go away, but taking that first step can really help you in the long run
that is still a form of abuse. he is forcing you to do something that you know you don’t want to do. you really do need to tell someone about it and I know it’s hard especially after something like that, but you still need to leave. things will only get worse and worse. you deserve SO much more, and you need to get help so you can see that.
I know this is an advice blog, but I’m not going to tell you how to hide self harm. you really do need to get help. it may seem like the only thing that helps you deal, but it really isn’t. you just need to find that something else that is going to be able to help you deal with it. try starting small, maybe finding someone that you can talk to about it and go from there.
I’m actually a freshman in college already and still am an undecided major. it’s totally okay not to know what you want to major in. you can apply to colleges as undecided anyways. you are going to have to take general education classes (math, science, history) anyways, so you can focus on those while taking some classes in fields you think you might be interested in, and that will help point you in a certain direction!
well, if it’s a girl you’re friends with, I think you should just tell her. you can’t just be like, hey he’s playing you stop talking to him, because then she’ll just ignore you and do what she wants. you have to be subtle, and you have to be very caring. let her know that you’re really only telling her because you don’t want to see her getting hurt. She may not listen to you, but just make sure you’re there for her no matter what happens
